A great deal of conversations have been floating around my Personal Learning Network about bullying — mostly cyber-bullying, but bullying none the less.
Bullying is not new to us. It happened all the time while I was growing up. It was just something you did not mention because when you did, it made matters even worse.
We saw bullying demonstrated on campuses when
……the non-favorite candidate got up to speak at the ASB election rally.
……groups were formed and certain people were not let in because other certain people just didn’t like them
…..notes were passed, whispers were whispers, flame books were passed around, and code words or signals were created…..often silent, but harmful attacks on reputations and emotions.
And this is still happening on campuses…….but it has also expanded to the campus of the internet.
Now, many within the network will argue, “Jen, that is not bullying, it is professional discord.” But, when you look deeper and honestly, we don’t just have bullying on on campuses, we have it within our Personal Learning Networks.
…..It has been demonstrated at conferences when the preferred speaker was not chosen to keynote.
…..It has been demonstrated when people use the comment area of a blog post to slam a person for their personal beliefs and thoughts or subtle twitter jabs that really just took a shot at the jugular.
…..It has been demonstrated through inner circles that have an unspoken “you are not welcome mat” , DM’s that are sent the crucify a person’s reputation, and eye-rolling, sighs, and “let me tell you something conversations” that happen when certain names are mentioned.
Bullying is not just happening on our campuses…..it is happening at our fingertips, it is happening in our network.
I have been guilty of bullying. Most of the time it is when I become jealous of someone else.
I have been guilty of bullying. Most of the time is when I refuse to see another’s viewpoint.
I have been guilty of bullying. Most of the time it is when I am trying to fit in — and to be accepted.
And I wonder, if you stop and really think this through — have you been guilty of bullying??
Bullying is not new to us. It happened all the time while I was growing up. It was just something you did not mention because when you did, it made matters even worse. So, in High School, I kept quiet.
Today, I decided to speak up. It is time to acknowledge that bullying is happening not just on our campuses…..but at our fingertips.