I can’t play baseball
I like to watch baseball but I can’t play baseball.
There are many things that could go wrong.
- The fear of failure
- The fear of not being able to connect the bat to the ball
- The fear of getting hit
- The fear of not making it to the base on time (or tripping on the way)
- The fear of being tagged out
- The fear of not knowing whether to run or to wait
- The fear of not catching the ball as it comes sailing through the air
- The fear of not being good enough
- The fear of letting the team down
I could add more…….
There are so many things that I know I am not good at — that lead me to not play baseball.
And for those of you who are NOT afraid of baseball or are at least comfortable enough to not let it scare you — my fears, to you, might be irrational, silly, and you might even judge me.
I know what I probably need is a good coach….
but NOT a good coach who is going to try to convince me that those fears are unfounded
— instead I need a coach who helps me to deal with those fears and little by little, perhaps not conquer them…..but to encourage me to not let them keep me from playing the game at all.
And that’s a lot like tech.
You see, I am good at Tech
I enjoy tech and I’m not afraid of tech
….but to explain that to someone who is terrified of tech, I’m not going to win them over by telling them how simple it is.
I’m not going to win them over by proving to them their thoughts are wrong and/or irrational.
I’m not going to win them over by pushing my comfortableness against their uncomfortableness.
What will help is when I am willing to help them work with these fears in a way that works for them.
Not shaming them or comparing them or even pushing them….but realizing that their fear might be totally justified and might also be the wall that they see is WAY too hard to get around or over and even through.
My job is NOT to tell them to go “hit the ball out of the park” –
Sometimes, my job is to encourage them to be willing to even pick up the bat or the ball or even be willing to sit on the bench.
And then, we go from there.